I Joined The Protest With My 4-Year-Old, Sometimes As Parents You Just Have to Do It Afraid

As parents, we were nervous of violence while wanting to peacefully protest Black Lives Matter in mid-city Los Angeles, but perfect love casts out fear

Bethanie Jean

AfterBuzz TV Host & Writer
Posted On: June 15th, 2020 4:16pm pst

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Taking our child into a potentially dangerous situation was not a decision my husband or I took lightly. We are the proud and very protective parents of a fragile four-year-old little girl, and we wanted her to understand the importance of the era she’s living through. 

We were aware that there has been violence, as well as police brutality towards the peaceful protesters. Times are crazy!!

Having seen a video of a precious little girl suffering from being pepper sprayed in her face rocked me to my core, and is not an image I will ever forget. 

Love is the opposite of fear. “Sometimes you just have to do it afraid!” ~Joyce Meyer 

We felt a strong call to action within us. Considering my daughter’s best friend from birth is black, we wanted her to understand the significance of standing up for a friend, for a neighbor, for a stranger! 

We had to have some difficult discussions with her about the topic of prejudice, and racism. She is the next generation that is being groomed on the very soil that was built for white supremacy. Her role is important – every child’s is. 

We know babies begin to show race recognition at about six months old, and by Preschool they begin to recognize racial prejudice. My daughter is a very fair, freckled, strawberry-blonde. She is actually the minority in her own preschool class. She adores her friends and classmates from school. She raves about them all the time. She recently noticed that she is “peach” colored, and her friends are “darker,” as she put it. Considering she was already making these observations on her own, it became time to discuss her civil duty as a white person in America. Heavy responsibility to be passing on to a preschooler, but you can’t start too young! This moral fiber is strengthened in the home. She wanted to go, and be part of this. She wanted to stand up for her BFF Shekainah. 

The three of us immediately took out canvases for painting art, and started making our signs. My daughter’s read “LOVE REVOLUTION! My very best friend is Black, and her life matters!” 

We scrambled out the door to attend a rally in Koreatown, mid-city Los Angeles. We made a good, quick  decision.  This moment in time was one of the most powerful and emotionally potent occasions I’ve ever had the honor of being a part of. 

We were surrounded by people of all different ethnic backgrounds holding their signs saying things like “Latinos for Black Lives“, and “Filipinos for Black Lives”, “Koreans for Black 

Lives” and so on, and so on. It was so raw, so beautiful, so basic and clear. 

We knelt all together in unity in a submissive stance, bowed down in honor of the 8 minutes and 43 seconds that George Floyd suffered under officer Derek Chauvin’s knee. 

We had no way of knowing if we would be safe from violence in our submission, but we felt bonded in unity with a crowd of strangers. These people were all family now. We all cried overwhelming tears from the moment of our arrival till we walked to our car. Drenching through our face masks, just as we have cried many times in these weeks. 

We went afraid of violence, but there were only 2 police officers watching from a distance across the street, and on our walk back we waived, and they warmly showed us support. 

We have said many times, we are “so glad we did this.”  

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𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒈𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒄𝒉. 🤜🏼🤛🏿 We love you. #westandwithyou with a lifetime supply of tears running down our masks. #whatbetterplacethanhere #whatbettertimethannow “All hell can’t stop us now.” This is the 𝑳𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒗𝒐𝒍𝒖𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏. (Also, 𝑩𝑱𝑯♥️𝑺𝑨𝑭~ #bffs 4evs !) #blm #blacklivesmatter #loverevolution #bethechange #unite #unity #standtogether For anyone that is wondering or concerned… this was not only a peaceful protest, it was one of the most powerful and beautiful moments in history . I feel so honored that I was able to witness it. It is a good thing I will never forget this, because it won’t ever happen again. 𝑰𝒕 𝒘𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐! #holtsofhollywood @eldenblack #bowiejean #happynationalbestfriendday

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I think now of little Armani Quanise, a 6 year old little girl from Paris, TN whose picture went viral with her sign that addressed the “All lives matter” response to this movement. Her mother helped her with this sign, that states “We said ‘Black lives matter.’ We never said ‘only Black lives matter.’ We know ‘all lives matter.’ We just need your help with #BlackLivesMatter for Black lives are in danger!” 

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Earlier this week an old acquaintance got dragged throughout all social media platforms by those who at one point called her a friend after she made a FB post “all lives matter” -> this is the best way to educate those around us. -> the biggest difference I know I can make is EDUCATING people like her I don’t think she meant harm, maybe shes unaware of her white privilege…. Instead of burning down a privileged American, let’s educate them. More of us standing together are stronger than us alone fighting for our black friends. -> “All lives” does include black lives, but black lives are the ones who need our voice!!! ——————————————— #blacklivesmatter #blacklivesareindanger #blacklivesarebeautiful #endracewar #educateyourself

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Armani’s mom said she believes it’s important for children to be informed and involved in current events. “They are the future,” and “Twenty years from now, Armani will be a woman, and I pray to God she doesn’t have to do what we are doing now!”

Well Ms. Quanise, I’m right there marching with you, and I couldn’t agree more! This is the foundation of a better tomorrow. If you tell your children to look away, they will miss the significance.

We here at AfterBuzz TV are in full support of the Black Lives Matter movement, so please continue to tune in to our network daily for more coverage!

~Bethanie Jean 


About The Author:

Bethanie Jean is a LA based Celebrity Stylist, Talk Show Host, Author, Interviewer, Network Style Expert, ‟pep-talker & vintage-stalker”.

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