Demi Moore is a prime example of how the effects of a rough childhood can lead to tense adult relationships. For the first time, she’s opening up about her two marriages and their impact on her life.
We all know Moore from movies such as Ghost, A Few Good Men, and Charlie’s Angels: Full Throttle; but what some may not know is that she’s had a lot of struggles off-screen. She revealed some of this while speaking with Diane Sawyer, highlighting her memoir, Inside Out. In the interview, Moore talked about her split with Bruce Willis in 2000, and her subsequent much-followed relationship with Ashton Kutcher who is fifteen years her junior.
In 1991, Moore and Willis met, married, and became pregnant within a four-month time span. For close to ten years, they raised three daughters together while starring in hit-blockbuster films, dealing with the stress of both parenting and being celebrities in Hollywood. Despite their dedication to parenting, the marriage ultimately split under the pressure.
At forty years old, while trying to find herself, Moore met Ashton Kutcher at a party.
“I felt like I was not coming with baggage,” Moore told Sawyer about going into her relationship with Kutcher, “I had trunks.”
Aside from the inner demons plaguing her, Moore also fought against a media that didn’t seem to accept an older woman with a younger man. Meanwhile, Willis dated someone twenty-three years his junior and no one batted an eye.
“I think part of it is we’ve been conditioned societally to the value of a woman being tied to her fertility,” Moore said. “What would an older woman have to offer?”
Speaking to fertility, Moore shared she and Kutcher tried repeatedly to have a child during their time together. She had in vitro fertilization a few times and became obsessive in regards to pregnancy.
“I really lost sight of everything that was right in front of me,” Moore said. “Which was the family I had. […] The weight that I put on Ashton. It’s a natural thing to pull back when someone is clinging too tight.”
Kutcher did pull back, and Moore learned of his infidelities in the form of a Google alert.
“I asked if it was true, and he admitted it right away,” Moore said. “I think my response was, ‘are you f****** kidding me?’”
After her relationship with Kutcher dissolved, she fell back into her childhood fears, started drinking again, and began a routine of taking twelve Vicodin pills each day. What Moore eventually discovered about herself in this process led back to her childhood.
“I really know that there are parts of what occurred with this relationship ending that were a level of devastating for me that wasn’t really just about that relationship,” Moore said. “It was really about my whole life. It was about being the two-year-old that wasn’t safe. That this really represented that I’m not loveable. That I’m not deserving. And that’s not about him. That’s all just about me.”
Despite her setbacks, Moore’s place in the media has given her the chance to be an inspiration for anyone who has ever gotten stuck in this negative cycle. Hopefully, others who are trapped will find her words to be that of comfort and help get them through a tough time.
For more, pick up Moore’s new memoir, Inside Out, available now with HarperCollins Publishers.