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Jennifer Finney Boylan: ‘There’s Nothing More Radical Than Raising a Family’ | LGBTQ&A

Interview with Jennifer Finney Boylan on LGBTQ&A with Jeffrey Masters

By: Jeffrey Masters

In an interview with the podcast, LGBTQ&A, Jennifer Finney Boylan (author and transgender activist) talks about how the public perception of transgender people has changed over the last 15 years, why that increase in visibility has also created more political opposition, and she explains why she is no longer interested in defending her humanity. 

The full interview with LGBTQ&A is available on iTunes and YouTube.

LGBTQ&A is an interview series hosted by Jeffrey Masters. Previous guests include Asia Kate Dillon, Ross Mathews, Trixie Mattel, Laura Jane Grace, Peter Paige, Cleve Jones, and Shane Ortega.

Jennifer Finney Boylan talks about how the public’s understanding of transgender people has changed over the last 15 years:

When I came out as trans, I really had to explain to people what I was talking about. I remember people saying, “So, wait. Transgender…does that mean that you’re super gay?” Which I used to get to get all cross and angry, but now I’m like, “Yes. I’m super gay. I have super powers.”

I did feel this compulsion, or this obligation I should say, to explain, to bring in, and, to some degree, to defend. That was 15 years ago and now my experience is very different. When I speak to people, they are often very familiar with transgender issues. Even the most uninformed audience still has a vague sense of what transgender might mean.

Boylan says that with more visibility in the transgender community, there has been an increase in opposition, most of which falls upon people of color. 

The blowback generally doesn’t fall upon me, on white ladies of privilege from New England. The blowback falls on people of color, women of color, particularly in the transgender community, and not only, but particularly people who are doing sex work, some people who want to do sex work and others who have to because that’s the only way to keep the lights on while you’re trying to figure out what to do with your life…how to get from where you are to where you want to be. And it costs a lot of people their lives.

Boylan says in spite of our differences, people must still be treated with kindness:

When I speak to people now, I want people to know as much as they can about the community, but the most important thing that they need to know is maybe not the differences between all of us, but the fact that the main thing you can do is to open your heart, just open your heart. And if you don’t know the difference between someone who’s identifying as a crossdresser and someone who’s identifying as a transsexual woman, if you don’t know the difference between those two things, that’s still OK. What matters more is that you approach them with love and kindness and curiosity, and a deep dive into their sexual and gender identities might not even be the first thing out of your mouth.

Boylan says that the most radical thing she’s done is raise a family:

I have raised two sons in rural Maine in a conservative town, I have been married now for almost 30 years to the same woman, 12 years as husband and wife and almost 18 years as wife and wife, and I think it some ways, there’s nothing more radical than raising a family. Going in and doing your work, it’s the showing rather than the telling.

Boylan says she is no longer interested in defending her humanity against critics of transgender people: 

And people will ask me to provide the defense, to provide the counter, and you know what my counter is? My counter is: look at me. Look at my life. You wanna know how I refute you? I refute you by living every day according to what’s in my heart and to the stars by which I pilot my boat, and I’m not here to have an argument about my own humanity. I’m not here to even participate in an argument about my humanity, which I might actually win or lose. Right?

Nobody should have to take part in a conversation in which their sense of self is something that they have to defend, and that’s if you’re nonbinary or binary or mortal or immortal. People should get to be themselves, period.

Click here to listen to the full podcast with Jennifer Finney Boylan and Jeffrey Masters on iTunes or watch on Youtube:

Jennifer Finney Boylan: Where We’re Going & The Future of the Trans Movement | AfterBuzz TV’s LGBTQ&A

Jennifer Finney Boylan talks with Jeffrey Masters about working with GLAAD to accelerate acceptance for LGBTQ people. She says that the marriage equality movement was successful because it changed the discourse from being about “sex” to “love”, and we debate about what words will be most successful for trans people to use to further the transgender movement. Jennifer Finney Boylan also discusses her new novel, Long Black Veil, The Lord of the Rings, moral imagination, and explains why she is no longer willing to participate in an argument about her humanity.

ABOUT LGBTQ&A:

LGBTQ&A is an interview podcast highlighting the different members of the LGBTQ community — artists, activists, lawmakers, and business people. LGBTQ&A is hosted by Jeffrey Masters and produced by AfterBuzz TV. Interviews are also filmed and available on YouTube.

AfterBuzz TV (Los Angeles, CA) is an online broadcast created by E! Host, Maria Menounos and producer, Keven Undergaro, and has over 23 million weekly downloads in over 150 countries. Nicknamed “the aftershow network”, when viewers finish watching episodes of their favorite shows, they can go to afterbuzztv.com to watch or listen to a post-game after-show where hosts break down that night’s episode and interview cast and crew. The network produces over 90 aftershows per week.

PROFESSOR JENNIFER FINNEY BOYLAN, author of fifteen books, is the inaugural Anna Quindlen Writer in Residence at Barnard College of Columbia University. She also serves as the national co-chair of the Board of Directors of GLAAD, the media advocacy group for LGBT people worldwide.

She has been a contributor to the op/ed page of the New York Timessince 2007; in 2013 she became Contributing Opinion Writer for the page. Jenny also serves on the Board of Trustees of the Kinsey Institute for Research on Sex, Gender, and Reproduction.  Jenny also serves as Special Advisor to the President of Colby College in Maine.

Jennifer Finney Boylan is a consultant and cast member for I AM CAIT, the docu-series about Caitlyn Jenner that debuted on the E! network in July of 2015; and also served as a consultant to the Amazon series TRANSPARENT.

Her 2003 memoir, She’s Not There: a Life in Two Genders(Broadway/Doubleday/Random House) was the first bestselling work by a transgender American. A novelist, memoirist, and short story writer, she is also a nationally known advocate for civil rights. Jenny has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show on four occasions; Live with Larry King twice; the Today Show,the Barbara Walters Special, NPR’s Marketplace and Talk of the Nation; she has also been the subject of documentaries on CBS News’ 48 Hours and The History Channel.

Jennifer Finney Boylan lives in New York City, and in Belgrade Lakes, Maine, with her wife, Deedie, and her two sons, Zach and Sean.

Jeffrey Masters is an actor, host, and writer in Los Angeles. He documents the stories of the LGBTQ community on his podcast, LGBTQ&A. Guests include Ross Mathews, Cleve Jones, Jennifer Finney Boylan, Asia Kate Dillon, Shane Ortega, and many others.

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